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morgandlm
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What to do with a frightened wife?
      #1917882 - 04/07/2008 19:04

Had a great day out sailing in The Blackwater today ..... until I left SWMBO on the helm while I went for'ard to tidy up a mooring line ( I should have done it before). We encountered a bit if a gust and instead of luffing up she tried to fight the tendency to luff and tried to bear away - we didn't get knocked down but we certainly got "very tippy". The situation was quickly resolved but she had a fright and got upset. This after years of trying to gently break her in to sailing and convince her it's fun. I'm not sure what happens next. At the moment she doesn't even want to talk about it. Any suggestions please?
Morgan


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Re: What to do with a frightened wife? [Re: morgandlm]
      #1917892 - 04/07/2008 19:18

More experience of the same.

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Re: What to do with a frightened wife? [Re: curve]
      #1917907 - 04/07/2008 19:35

Ask her if she has learned a useful lesson or will she just hide under the bedclothes?

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Re: What to do with a frightened wife? [Re: Searush]
      #1917914 - 04/07/2008 19:42

I have the same problem, first the boat started sinking near a shipping channel (so we thought...the water pump had come disconnected, and as far as she was concerned, we were sinking), then the engine packed up when going down the twizzle at walton, needed a tow, then I blew myself up with petrol in the bilge...now I think persuading her to come sailing with me may be a lost cause...in fact, I am not too keen either!
Fortunately, I have a 20 year old son who is keen, and I have given up on the Wife as a lost cause, perhaps I should do the same with the boat?


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Conrad
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Re: What to do with a frightened wife? [Re: JasB]
      #1917921 - 04/07/2008 19:48

Not easy, my wife got more comfortable when the fear left my face and water on gunnels became a regular occurence.

So as someone said more of the same, as you both learn the boats limits it doesn't get such a worry.


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JasB
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Re: What to do with a frightened wife? [Re: Conrad]
      #1917924 - 04/07/2008 19:51

Quote:

when the fear left my face




Not an easy trick to pull off!


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Re: What to do with a frightened wife? [Re: morgandlm]
      #1917973 - 04/07/2008 20:41

Start by actually teachin the lass to sail, thats what i have been doing with future SWMBO, and it seems to be working, as she is really getting the hang of it. The trick seems to be to start off on really calm sunny days when the boat will hardly move at all, so she learns to get the best from the canvass, then move on the the awkward stuff.

Next weeks lesson for my future mrs is reefing, that should be fun.

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Re: What to do with a frightened wife? [Re: morgandlm]
      #1917975 - 04/07/2008 20:45

When I feel it's getting a bit too tippy I tend to bear away and spill some wind, letting the boat luff up in strong gusts can surely lead to a broach.

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Re: What to do with a frightened wife? [Re: Krew2]
      #1917981 - 04/07/2008 20:50

I thought it was just me. I've usually found the act of luffing up makes the boat heel more until the sails stall.
I have found in my little boats that maintaining my course seems the better option. Heels a touch more, but it's stable.

If it's really bad I just slacken the mainsheet a little.

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Re: What to do with a frightened wife? [Re: Krew2]
      #1917984 - 04/07/2008 20:51

I have a daughter who is scared of "leany-over" boats. We have a radio controlled model yacht and she really took to sailing that. Afterwards I asked her if she noticed that no matter how much it leaned over, it never went right over and she asked if our boat would be like that. The answer seemed to comfort her a great deal. Unfortunately, with the boat out of the water, I can't see if it's made any difference!

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